Why do people insist that everything will work out?

I know exactly how you feel. For the last 8 cycles I have had people tell me everything from "when you stop stressing it will happen" to "when you stop trying it will happen" and guess what???? It hasn't happened and now it looks like it never will. You are right, for some people it never happens, and yesterday my husband and I found out that WE are the lucky people who are most likely never going to have a child of our own. Between my inability to ovulate on my own and my husband's very low count of normal, non-deformed, fast swimming sperm our chances of conceiving naturally are non-existent. IVF is our only option at this point and the incredibly high price tag that comes with a 50% chance at best combined with the issue of the nearest IVF clinic being 6 hours away, throw my husbands upcoming deployment to a war zone in there, and we are screwed. All the destressing and waiting in the world aren't going to do us any good. It is one of those situations where you think it will never happen to you. Then one day you are that poor pitiful couple that can't have babies of their own and it is the crappiest, most horribly feeling in the world. Right now I want to punch every person in the face that ever said those things to me. That all being said, don't give up. Even right now, at my darkest point, when I feel like part of me has died, I can't completely give up hope. If I have to collect cans on the side of the road or work graveyard shifts at mcdonald's to pay for IVF, we will try it and should it fail well I really hope by then I have come to terms with my fate. I wrote this not to scare you but to let you know that your fears are totally normal and completely valid, don't let anyone tell you that it will always work out because for some people it simply does not. I am fortunate enough to have a child from a previous marriage, it is my poor husband who has to face the fact that he may never bear any biological offspring and I would do anything to change that. Good luck and no matter how bitter I may be at this moment I still wish you the best of luck and may 2010 bring you a baby even if it doesn't look like it will be bringing me a baby.